Leadership comes through being honest with yourself. Don’t be afraid to be yourself and express your uniqueness.
Some characteristics are personal and pretending to be someone you are not can only lead to frustration and stress.
Then there is context. You have to allow for the possibility that you may not be right for a certain context and that your leadership style is not what the organization requires.
If that is the case, it will be up to you to choose whether to adapt or seek a situation that is more suitable for you.
This is why I insist so much on the importance of doing the work to understand and accept yourself. The secret to being able to remain consistent over time is to find yourself and the true intrinsic motivation that drives you.
This is how you will be able to deal with any attack or criticism. Otherwise, the risk is that you will find yourself in a situation of extreme fragility.
Without making peace with your inner self and your values, you will not be able to understand the expectations of the people around you, nor will you be able to structure goals, and you will end up simulating dissonant behaviour that will generate contradictions and unconscious bias.